After a week with temperatures in the mid eighties, somebody flipped a switch Friday afternoon and suddenly fall is here. It was a somewhat muggy 70 degrees or so as I waited for the bus at 7:00 Friday morning, and by the time I sat waiting for the bus to take me home at four o’clock, it was a rather chilly and damp 61. Between the relative cold and it being Friday, the bus, of course, was about 25 minutes late. Plus I (as usual) attracted the attention of one of the local street people, who decided to hang out at the picnic table with me. Which is fine, of course (theses are my peeps, after all), but he had a rather disconcerting tic that was kind of distracting. Plus he was shading my view of the bus arrivals.
Normally Friday and the weekend would give me something to look forward to, but as I’m once again on the wagon (no beer in over two weeks – not that I’m counting), basically my life is empty. It’s kind of like my best friend died or something. Where once I could look forward to hanging out with my good buddy Beer, sharing a laugh or two after work, now I got nothing. So I basically just go to bed as soon as possible (which is easier now that it gets dark so early). Since I get up before 4:00 these days, I guess that’s just as well.
On a side note – and I guess this is a rhetorical question, but… – does anybody really a give a shit whether Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are getting a divorce? I wish they’d spend this much energy on climate change or cops shooting black people. Those insipid celebrity “entertainment” programs are advertising that they’ll be telling us how the pair spent their “first weekend since the split was announced,” and another promises to tell us who the famous couple are “turning to” in their time of need. Oh for chrissakes.
So now the weekend’s over, and tonight’s the big night. The “Super Bowl” of debates, as one moron just referred to it on the news. Clinton fans think that Hillary will “mop the floor” with Donald, but I think that’s pretty naive. I mean, no matter how well you (or I) feel about Hillary’s performance or how obviously clear it is that she’s way more qualified and intelligent than Herr Drumpg id, the expectations for Trump are so low that all he needs to do to “win” is not fling is feces at the audience (otherwise, it’s a draw). He’ll make shit up (which may or may not get corrected during the post-game show, after everybody turns off their teevees) while looking “presidential,” and the “liberal” media will spin every Clinton misstep as criminal offense while the right wing nut jobs will call for her execution.
I don’t care how prepared and in command of the facts Hillary is, she can’t win. It’s the equivalent of bringing a knife to a gun fight. Or maybe bringing a brain to a food fight.
Needless to say, I have no intention of watching the festivities. For one thing, it doesn’t start until 9:00 and even with beer I’d barely make it long enough to see the start of it – no way I’d be around at 10:30 when it ends.
And, sadly, we say so long to Arnold Palmer. My dad was a golf fan (and therefore so am I) and if you were his age, then you were an Arnie Palmer fan. I was a Jack Nicklaus fan, but my dad wasn’t too crazy about Nicklaus at first, because he came out and started beating Arnie. I don’t really follow golf anymore (and I don’t think I’ve even played since my dad died), mostly because where once there was Palmer, Nicklaus, Watson, Player, Trevino, Rodríguez, and Elder, now there’s…. I don’t really know. Tiger seems to be washed up. I guess I should like that Rory guy since he’s Irish – but he’s from the North, so, he’s not one of the “good ones.”
I guess that’s just part of getting old. I don’t care for the new golfers, the new music, football aint what it used to be, and if those damn kids don’t get off my lawn I’m calling the cops!
But first I better get ready to catch the bus and start another mind-numbing week of work.
We’ having our autumn hot spell, 3-4 days at a time. The quetion is how many and how long. My humble reintroductiomhas been less than stellar and I hope the spells might bring home a meager crop. Of coure it ompletely stops raining from May to October and we are in a drought so watering is a challengiing. I will beging to start some cooler weather plants (hopefully ramps) soon. Maybe next year I will just spend more at farmers’ markets and save time and hassle’
Add on that the Giants are almost eliminated, That the poor Cuban refugee pitcher of tremendous talent and accomlishment met an untimely death followe by Arnold didn’t bring any solace yesterday. The 4
Santa Clara 47ers are not going anywhere. Maybe the Warriors can be a relief in a few months.
At least the great free Hardly Strictly Bluegrass Festival this weekend.
It’s cold here, too. 50 when I woke up. Had to turn on the heat.
I dread the debates. I fear Trump. I don’t know if I will watch tonight. I don’t think I can do it alone.
Grieving sucks. It hurts and it needs no trigger, though there are plenty of them. I’m trying to do things that will make me better. I will be a mentor to a thrid or fourth grader on Wednesdays. It’s part of an after school writing program that I don’t think is very good but at least it will get me out of the house and around kids and adults. There are some very nice people who have been helpful but I am not comfortable with having people help me. I’ve always want to be able to take care of myself.
Some electrical and carpentry work needs to be done and of course the electrician saw a me and correctly decided I knew nothing about electrical systems and gave me an estimate of $12,600 for things that needed to be done and things that should be done if you’re bored lighting cigars with hundred dollar bills. Fortunately my son inlaw, Andy, did a great job of defining the scope of work and the estimate is now $3500. Taking shop classes might have helped but when I went to school girls were only allowed to take home economics which really means learning to cook and clean. Unfortunately none of those lessons had any effect.
I’m really, really tired of crying. I hate crying in public and I’ve managed to get that under much better control I even made it past the post office cleaning lady who loves to mention how sorry she is and what a nice person Mike was…The first time She did it I could not help but disolve, but now I can nod at her and get out of there before she tries to “comfort” me. I also know her work schedule so I avoid her bettter.
Mikey’s birthday was Sept. 23. That, of couse, didn’t help. I “adopted” a chimpanzee from “Save The Chimps.” Mike had donated to them. They help the chimps who were used in labs.
Whitley Strieber lost his beautiful wife, Anne, last year after a long and difficult illness. They had a long marriage and some extraordinary experiences along the way with some profound understandings coming to fruition after Anne’s death. Your pain and your journey brings me to tears and reminds me so much of Whitley’s journey. Anne was an extraordinary human being and I don’t know if it would help you to have a peek through her diary. She has some profound insights into the life/death boundaries that we 3-D creatures struggle with.
Unknown Country is where we live. Whitley’s pain at having Anne leave this world was as clearly evident as as yours with Mike’s departure. Over the past year, he has been evolving through his experience and Anne is helping him through it. I am wondering if Mike is trying to get through to you as well, but the pain and sadness of grief are just too strong right now. It is a process of healing, like a big open wound having to knit together before one can get to the point of actually healing from the trauma.
So many of Whitley’s podcasts since Anne’s death are just extraordinary because she is clearly there and he and other “tuned in” individuals are hearing her as well. He has said many times that she is a born teacher. I sincerely believe that we are all born to be each others teachers. At this time, Mike may only be able to whisper in your ear but you can’t hear him yet because you haven’t cried all of your pain out yet. You’ll get there and then you’ll be able to hear him. It is a process.
Chimps used in labs absolutely need help. I wonder if your adoptee is named Caesar — perhaps he can do something to change this world for the better. …… I participated in a Shamanic drumming group in Rochester for a time several years ago and one of the members worked in a science lab at the U of R as a caretaker of the chimps being used for experimentation. It was an exceedingly difficult job for him because of the suffering he felt from the animals. “Save The Chimps” sounds like a worthwhile organization to support — That may be one of Mike’s “whispers” that you are able to hear right now. There will surely be more.
Miraculous Journey . I don’t know if this wonderful book that Anne & Whitley wrote before she passed would help, but it is a very good read.
Grief. Sucks. Period.
Speaking of golf, this is par for the course.
That’s not fair. Could be meth.
Thanks, RG for the good thoughts, they helped. I’ve missed you here. I like your posts.
I watched the debate with a friend, last night. I thought Donald behaved much better than usual. The only problem was that he was still an uninformed, dopey, racist and mysogynist. But at least he didn’t assure us that his genitalia was problem free.
The sniffling was interesting because he often acts like a speed freak. He can’t shut up and he just spouts whatever that mind of his conjures. Colbert said he was trying to cure a cold with cocaine. On Rawstory some suggested it was Adderal (sp?) he took. Maybe it was both.
My professional assessment of Trump.
Think of this next time you go to the dreaded dentist, pj!
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I did watch the debate, too. Trump’s IQ is quite low. Either that or he has dementia. He does not make sense at all. To use his word, “SAD.”
Jennifer Rubin asks, What’s wrong with Trump?
Good point. Much like my 90+ dear ole pops…… Trump is quite frightening to me. While I’m at it….why is it ok to go after Hillary for BILL’s affairs? She didn’t do it and she is the run running for prez.
Not to mention how a fat pig thinks he has the right to criticize anybody else for being overweight. And how about knowing Paris Hilton since she was a 12 year old girl and admitting to watching her sex tape?
I really don’t know how anybody not named Archie could vote for Trump – especially a woman.